I listened in recently as authors talked about how they came to write m\/m romance, and for a number of us, it came down to writing<\/em> what we like to read<\/em>. When you break it down, I think a lot of us are serving up our own bulletproof kinks \u2013 those things that blow our hair back every. single. time. \u2013 with the hope that readers will share the attraction and the fascination. I had more to say, but then I found this photograph, which says more than reams of words about my own bulletproof kinks:<\/p>\n <\/a> I right-clicked and saved that photo with the tag \u201cawwwwww!\u201d but unfortunately never found the photographer to credit. I would if I could, because damn, that\u2019s one great photograph. The contrast between the brute force the guy\u2019s carrying and his gentle touch does<\/em> things to me. Note that the kitten is completely unintimidated by the big bad soldier man, contentedly accepting whatever tenderness he has to offer.<\/p>\n Bulletproof Kink #1<\/strong>: Alpha males who can still show their soft sides.<\/p>\n In that same vein, take a look at Brad \u201cIceman\u201d Colbert, as played by Alexander Skarsgard in Generation Kill<\/em>, HBO\u2019s extraordinary mini-series about the 1st<\/sup> Recon Marines who were the \u201ctip of the spear\u201d in the invasion of Iraq in 2003.<\/p>\n <\/a> That\u2019s one badass motherfucker, right there. My loins and I approve.<\/p>\n Bulletproof Kink #2<\/strong>: Competence. Show me a man who\u2019s really frigging good at what he does, throw him in camouflage or an athletic uniform, and color me done.<\/em><\/p>\n Where did these particular kinks come from? The competence kink is easily traceable: I imprinted early on the character of Johnny Gage on Emergency!<\/em> \u2013 a show about paramedics that aired in the 1970s. Johnny and his partner Roy did what needed doing, even in difficult circumstances (a chemical fire! a cactus patch!) and still managed to offer reassurance and compassion to the patients in their care. YUM.<\/p>\n Around the same time, I started following my beloved Tarheels, the basketball team from the University of North Carolina. The players were all tall, skilled, and presented a public image of down-home goodness and civic responsibility. As I grew up, I came to realize they were no better or worse than any of the rest of us, but the ideal<\/em> remained.<\/p>\n The military kink is something of a head-scratcher, to tell you the truth, but I think at its core, it\u2019s the competence kink writ large on the largest possible scale: life and death. Add in camaraderie and isolation and I get a little tingle.<\/p>\n So what blows your <\/em>hair back? Best friends? Cops? Cowboys? Vamps? Tell me all about them!<\/strong><\/p>\n [Comment on this post to be eligible to win a copy of Janey’s book TLC 101<\/a>!] *** <\/a> Check out Janey’s latest release to see her bulletproof kinks on display in novella form available at Janey Chapel’s page <\/a>at Dreamspinner Press<\/p>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/i736.photobucket.com\/albums\/xx2\/janeychapel\/awwwwwwjpg.jpg?resize=219%2C248\")
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